Why is my brother aggressive and why I am logical? Well, because my big bros grew up without our father’s presence during their childhood. They didn’t have a guide who would train them how to make decisions. Dad was abroad … Bros were out of the house most of the time … playing and fighting with neighborhood kids. So, they learnt that the way to get things done was to yell, scream, scare the other person and if required, beat him up. Lol. This was their success formula.
How to be right? This is how to be right … yell, scream, scare and beat up others. My elder brothers on one side and me and my younger brother on the other side … we are totally different in our behaviors. Not only me … but even my younger brother … you will not see him yelling, screaming, scaring or fighting with others. Because we lived with Dad … in a different environment abroad … in the best schools and neighborhoods. We are the same blood brothers but our behaviors are different.
Dad said one thing to my elder siblings when there were about to graduate their 10th class that … “this is as far as I go … I have myself studied only uptil the 10th … hereon, you should study and explore your options ahead and make your decisions.” It was just one night of counseling that they got … I don’t know even if they remember that … but I remember it very well … because I used to get a “lot of counseling” from my Dad, when compared to other siblings, that is.
My Dad’s training for me was a little bit different. He would never instruct or tell me what to do … he would push me to learn things myself. “Look at your environment … see what people are doing … study and learn … then decide the right thing that has to be done”. He gave me live practice of doing some research work on my own before making a decision … in several scenarios.
My elder siblings were in a habit of deciding what is right by yelling, screaming, scaring and fighting … I would decide what is right by doing some research work. My elder siblings treat my Dad as if he is some God and they love and worship him. But Dad never told us to worship him … Dad never told me even to follow him … he trained me to “find what is right” and then do what is right.
My elder siblings will say whatever that comes in their head and I tend to do some research first. Several times I have directly opposed my own father’s decisions whom they love and adore very much. Even I love my Dad but if his decision is wrong and it would hurt family members … I would help him understand where he is going wrong. Dad would never mind or feel bad … as he knew exactly how I operate … but my siblings, they would be like … “oh ho hoo … so, you will teach Dad also, huh? You are better than Dad, is it?” Lol.
Following peaceful options as a priority
The second thing you guys must be wondering is … why I am not reporting my Bro to the Police for not handing over my property papers? See, there is a no actual plan to file an FIR against my Bro for anything. It’s not that he doesn’t deserve it … but the plan was to involve someone who can contain and control Bro’s negative activities. Involving the Police has helped to a great extent in managing his behavior … otherwise, we were dealing with a nightmare in broad daylight every now and then at home.
At the end of the day, he is my Bro … reporting him to the Police for everything hurts. Forget about hurting him … it hurts me to talk to the Police. I am myself so uncomfortable with this phase and what I am having to do to get things right at home. If anything happens to him … then it will directly affect his wife and kids … and these things are never forgotten easily. It will last for a lifetime … the conflicts may even pass on to the next generations, who knows.
The priority is not to sue him or to report him to the Police … the priority is to use all peaceful measures possible to rectify the situation in a controlled and peaceful manner. That’s why, I myself give him some time to rectify the situation himself … so that, I don’t keep pushing him to do what is right. If he himself fixes the situation … then it’s a good thing. If I have to push him … then don’t know to what extent I will have to push him … family level counseling … police level counseling … legal counseling … police cases … legal cases … God knows where it will take us.
Peaceful and controlled measures
“Peaceful and controlled measures” is my game. I can stop nuclear world wars … so, this thing is pretty much peanuts. Its stressful as family is involved … it has a different type of tension attached to it. Sometimes, it wears you out. Trust me, being patient is more testing and difficult than being aggressive and violent.
Reminds me of hell fire
I used to wonder “Why God burns people in hell? God says that He is our Creator and He loves us more than our mother. Then, why does He burn us in hell? Would a mother burn her own children in fire?” I never understood this … nor did I find a reference from religious texts explaining God’s decision to burn us in hell.
Sometimes when a question lingers in my heart for a long time … God tends to answer it in one way or the other. I don’t have children of my own … but God used Trump to explain this concept to me. I started helping Trump even before he became President … as to what was going on … how he had to operate … how to dodge traps and disasters … how to make decisions … how to investigate … how to set up teams … how to understand and manage Establishment elements. I had great plans for him … if he had worked with me, I would have created a dynasty for him.
But what my lovely Trump does is … he takes all the help that I can give … benefits from it, profits from it, protects himself using it … and then gives me the finger after having used me. It hurt once … then it hurt twice … thrice … fourth and the fifth time … and it went on and on. It became to repetitive that it wouldn’t hurt me anymore … but a thing inside me started “burning”.
I would never hurt Trump … I would always guide him … he would take everything that I could give … and then he would flip and give me the finger. While I was burning in frustration and anger … as to how can someone be so unthankful, ungrateful and openly irresponsible … this “fire” burning inside me reminded me of God.
When compared to God … I haven’t done shit for Trump. God has created the entire Cosmos … millions of plants, animals, birds, fishes, trees, mountains, sky, planets … is with us for every second of our lives .. we live and breath thanks to Him. And then … we reject him … we worship someone else … we don’t follow Him. We do this again and again and again and again … this unthankful and ungrateful behavior of ours while we are living in God’s world … this repetitive disobedience and ungratefulness builds a fire in God’s heart. And it is in this fire that you will burn in hell.
This is not God burning you in hell … each person carries his share of fire along with him to hell. It is your repetitive disobedience and ungrateful behavior that creates this fire. Trump didn’t listen to me for a couple of years and I had a fire burning inside me for his ungrateful behavior. But we don’t listen to God for 60 years … or 80 years … or even more than 100 years. Imagine God is being patient with us for more than a 100 years and patiently putting up with our disobedience and ungratefulness.
Thinking this … helps me be patient in such scenarios.
